Nothing Is Happening To You It Is Happening For You

Nothing Is Happening To You It Is Happening For You

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Nothing is happening to you it is happening for you. I know, I know that sounds absurd, I know, but it is very true. I used to think every thing was happening to me and I never understood why. Looking back I now, of course, see that everything was happening for me and it was never happening to me. 

Just a few short years ago, 2014 to be specific, things just seemed to happen to me. I am sure many of you have had days, weeks, months, or even years that you felt like bad stuff was happening to you. I know, I was there. Everything happened to me, at least I thought everything was happening to me. Turns out it was happening for me! That’s right. 

Looking back I can now see how everything was happening for me and to me. In fact, if I don’t believe I would be where I am today if it wasn’t for the things that happened to me. Of course, a lot of the things that happened to me happened because I brought them on myself. The things that were out of my control was actually happening for me and for a reason. 

“You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards.'- Steve JobsClick To Tweet

Here is the quote in its entirety: 

Steve Jobs Connect the Dots Quote. “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.

When I first heard this it made so much sense. I remember when I was going through hard times all I could was look forward and so many times I tried to connect the dots but nothing made sense and I felt like everything was happening to me. Now that I am in a better place mentally (mindset), physically, spiritually, and financially I can look back and connect the dots.

Too often people face obstacles and throw their hands up in frustration and walk away from their dream or goal. I too did this several times. The one thing that made me different was I would always go back and try again. If what I did before didn’t get me the results I wanted then I would try something else. I would keep trying until something worked. 

Sometimes I just sit and think about all the dots in my past and how they all just somehow connected together and it still amazes me. I could tell you story after story of how things were happening for me and to me but I would rather you think of the times things were happening for you instead. 

Things Are Happening For You All The Time

You may not see it now but things are happening for you. Things happen for you through the people that come into your life and cross paths with you. Things happen for you when you fail and choose to learn from itThings happen for you when it seems they are happening to you. 

Things happen for you when people walk out of your life. Trust me I know first hand that one is a hard one to grasp but the truth sometimes hurts. I once had someone who I loved very much just walk out of my life like it was nothing to them. It hurt and it hurt badly. I don’t think I ever felt emotional pain like that before or even since. However, looking back I now see that them walking out was simply a dot that was about to be connected to another dot. 

In June of 2016, I packed my bags and my son and we moved to Florida. We got down there and for reasons I prefer not to share, we were forced to move back to Illinois for what I thought was a brief stay before we moved on to Branson, MO with my older sister.  

I am not kidding you the day before I was supposed to leave I was offered a job at Amazon. I didn’t know what to do. For some strange reason, I felt like I was supposed to accept the job even though I had absolutely no desire to work in a warehouse.  After a lot of praying and following my gut, I accepted the job and stayed in Illinois. 

In August I felt this need to start dating again even though I had absolutely no desire to. In fact, a memory just popped up on my Facebook yesterday of how I tried to back out of a date and my daughter wouldn’t let me. Roughly about 3 dates later I met my now husband. 

We met in September of last year (2016) and married June 30th, 2017. Looking back all those things I thought happening to me was actually happening for me! What is happening for you? Take a moment and reflect back on your life and focus on the things that were happening for you and the thing things that were happening to you. 

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